Now that spring is upon us, many of us think of opening the windows and letting in fresh air. Others think about cleaning out the garage, de-cluttering throughout the house, cleaning out closets, putting a fresh coat of paint on a wall. I could go on, but you probably wish I wouldn’t. But what about your mind?
This is also a good time to consider decluttering your mind. It’s a good time to take inventory of what’s living around upstairs in your head. Are you still walking around with thoughts that have worn out their welcome? Consider kicking them to the curb for bulky-trash pickup. Do you still play old tapes from your childhood or your first marriage? Those cassettes tapes have been out-dated for quite some time now. Get rid of them. But how, you might ask.
Start saying no to things that drain your energy and start saying yes to things that add value to your life. Cut back on drinking alcohol and stop using other drugs. If you need support with this, call me at 636-288-1997, check out AA or NA, or schedule an assessment at a treatment facility. Improve your diet, begin an exercise program, get more sleep. These are some basic lifestyle changes that will improve your mood and make it easier to think clearly. They will also give you the extra energy you need to tackle any relationship concerns that you may have. If making changes seems overwhelming to you, start with small steps and build incrementally.
If you are on the receiving end of a toxic relationship, it’s time to either end that relationship or set boundaries that make it very difficult for that toxicity to spill over on you and drain your energy. If you think you might be that toxic person, it’s time to confront your demons and begin healing so that you can enjoy what it means to be in a fulfilling relationship. Need help exploring what a toxic relationship is or how to set different boundaries? Call me for an appointment at 636-288-1997.